Arguing or disputing – whatever you may call it, almost all the couple get into fights every now and then. As these fights become normal part of a relationship, the relationship counselors say that it is the way how couples handle their arguments and that also determine how healthy a relationship is.
When a serious conflict arises in between the couples, one may not give his partner a chance to speak and other had no choice to remain in a state of apologizing unwillingly. It can cause confusion and pent-up tension in the relationship. Thus, it is vital that a couple chooses to resolve their conflict in a healthy way. The early your get back to love and compassion after each disagreement means those are the emotions left hanging in the air between the couple. It’s these feelings that lend to greater love and connectivity, and if that’s not the goal in your relationship then you’re missing an opportunity to teach the next generation how to have loving and functional unions that they themselves will pass on.”
In this article, we’ve listed out some of the ways by which partners can resolve their issues and move on. So, here you go!
Choose silence first: When you feel that your anger is in the air, then you must choose to stay calm during that time. Give the situation a thought. This will help you in judging out the mistake and will also help in finding ways of clearing the disputes without creating hurt feelings and anger.
Find a solution before presenting a problem: Most of the times partners shout in anger and demand for aid on the issue. This causes feeling of hurt and confusion between the couples. Thus, it is vital that you put a solution on the table when you address an issue.
Don’t ask for anything you’re not willing to do first: You don’t need to ask your partner about what you aren’t willing to do. For example, if you wish him to stay calmer during the argument, then it is equally important for you to stay calm.
Balance: Most of the fights will be resolved when you put yourself to that place. For example, if you are angry of the fact that garbage isn’t been taken out by your partner, then put yourself in that place and think if you’d have done this.
Forgive: It is important that you do not take fights to an extent that would hurt you more. Instead learn to forgive. This will help you in ending up an argument with your partner in calmer manner. No conflicts or an argument should be rolled on to next day. Efforts must be made to resolve it on the same day before you sleep.
Apologize: Learn to apologize for the mistakes you’ve committed and then try not to repeat them. Don’t just apologize for the sake of it; learn to do it from your heart.
The sooner you adopt to the above mentioned ways, the better you make your relationships.
